A few days ago, my human did something wildly outside her comfort zone—she sang at Carnegie Hall as part of a festival of choirs. 🎶 Yep. That Carnegie Hall.
If you missed the full story, she shared more in her latest newsletter: [June Newsletter Link] But here’s what she didn’t mention…
Right before the performance, her inner gremlin showed up—loud and chatty. “Are you sure you’re good enough to be here?” “What if you blow it on this stage?”
Instead of spiraling, she leaned into a powerful mindset shift from The Gap and The Gain by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin Hardy.
• The Gap is where we focus on the distance between where we are and where we think we should be.
• The Gain is where we measure progress based on how far we’ve already come.
So she paused. Reflected. She had studied. She had grown. She was ready. And when she anchored into that truth—into the joy of rehearsals, the swell of harmonies, the music in her bones—everything shifted.
That mindset didn’t just calm her nerves—it activated dopamine, the brain’s reward chemical. Because she had already internalized the win during practice, her brain treated the performance as a celebration, not a test. And it felt… easy.
✨ Confidence didn’t come first. Presence did. Then purpose. And finally—performance.
So here’s a question for you: Where in your life could you reflect on the “Gain” instead of getting stuck in the “Gap”?
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